Blame Barbie All You Want, The Real Problem Is You

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Barbies, models, and even Disney princesses are being adjusted by some people to show what they would look like with a “realistic waistline”. Don’t get me wrong, I agree that the proportions on these things are so far away from being realistic, but with Disney princesses and Barbies there should be no reason to have to change the waistline, or size of the cartoons legs for young girls to understand that that is not what a normal human being looks like. Models on the other hand, they are almost always photo-shopped to hide the cellulite or the creases or the “ugly, fat parts”.

Models, being that most people perceive them as looking perfect, must look perfect in their pictures. Have you ever noticed that when, in their pictures, they are leaning backwards they have no back fat? How about the way their legs seem to be perfectly shaven and smooth? Or how they always have the perfect tan? That, my friends, is called photo-shop. None of these girls actually look like that, and that is exactly what these people are trying to achieve by showing people that these cartoons and toys are not realistic in proportion. Well here’s the only problem i see with that: young girls are not going to pay attention to the waistline on the princess or that Barbie doll you bought her. What most girls are going to pay attention to is the movie that the princess is playing in and how shes getting all her dreams come true, along with a Prince Charming. And Barbies? Well, I don’t necessarily like Barbies and never have, but if a young girl is paying more attention to the waistline on the Barbie than actually playing with it, then you should talk to her about self-image, and how she perceives herself.

Now, to counter what i just said about most young girls not paying attention to how they look, what happens when they do? Do we blame the creators of the said cartoon/toy? Or maybe we should take away the toy so they can’t see it? Oh, no! I forgot about models, now she will starve herself to look like them! Maybe we should blame the people who edit the photos! Or even better, we can just show her all the overweight models, so she thinks being skinny is bad! Wow, can you feel my sarcasm radiating off the screen yet?

The problem with society is that we blame everyone else for our children’s self-image issues. “Well, maybe if she wasn’t exposed to this or that…” Is all I hear when people talk about self-image issues. Everyone is so scared of being a bad parent/person and being blamed for something, that they put it off on something that may or may not even be the real problem. When your child, student, brother, sister, or even friend comes up to you and talks about how she doesn’t like the way they look, TALK to them about why that is. If they say that it IS because of these unrealistic cartoons and toys, then explain to them that these company’s are NOT wanting to show you what the “perfect girl” looks like, but instead, are just making a cartoon/toy for them enjoy. But most of the time, it comes from a lack of self-confidence. So when they say something about it, make sure to point out all the great things about them. Make sure to tell them that everyone is beautiful, no matter how they look. But most importantly, just talk to them. Be open and honest, tell them if that scarf looks bad or not, or if that color makes them look green. When you are honest, and nice, about these kinds of things they will be able to handle judgement and criticism better, later on in life and they won’t perceive themselves as “ugly” or “too fat” because they will know that they are perfectly fine the way they are. And when everyone finally accepts that we can’t all look the same, and that the problem isn’t these companies its society as a whole, everyone will be much happier being themselves.

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